Communication: Ways to Give Feedback

Many years ago, I had a friend I would vent to frequently. When she knew I was particularly distressed, she would ask "which of these do you want?":

• Do you want me to just listen, quietly with no response?
• Do you want me to simply repeat back what I've heard?
• Do you want me to ask you questions?
• Do you want to know my experience, strength and hope?
• Do you want my advice?*
• etc.

*Advice should really never be given without permission.

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Related Links:

Active Listening and Reflective Responses

also

Setting Functional Boundaries By Pia Mellody.